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Why you may not feel sexual pleasure

07-10-2016   Wellbeing

Our friends at Broadly asked experts how women can solve the problem of not feeling anything during sex.


They explained that we have a tendency to think of sex in simplified terms.
“Almost as though the human body were a vending machine. Insert the right coinage, push the right buttons and out pops an orgasm. But what's a girl to do when that Snickers bar gets stuck inside the machine? Why do some women report feeling nothing during sex?”

The human body is not a vending machine.

“Your orgasm starts with your mind, not your fingers.” say Dr. Tammy Nelson, author of Getting the Sex You Want.

Women who’ve had trouble achieving orgasm in the past may put more pressure on themselves but not all women reach orgasm and remember there's plenty to enjoy during sex without the ‘big finish’! Women need to feel safe and at ease otherwise they’ll shut down if they feel threatened or anxious. 

Masturbation is one of the best ways for us to get in touch with our sexual desires and without the pressure from a partner.  It takes time to find out what feels good and give ourselves the mental space to explore in a stress free environment.

Here are 7 ways to improve your sexual health by Lea Rose Emery at Bustle.com

1. Read Up
2. Ask Questions - at Sent To Thrill, we want women to feel they can start to talk with other women about sexual health and enjoyment.
3. Get Techy 
4. Talk To Your Partner
5. Know When You Need To Talk To A Doctor
6. Go Commando
7. Be Prepared


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