BDSM has been compared to the child’s game called “trust” when one stands in front of another and falls backwards, hopefully to be caught by the other. BDSM can mean a few things to people but in essence covers bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (D&S) and sadism and masochism (S&M).
Michael Castleman, health and sex journalist says in an interview to Quartz, “When the falling player trusts the catcher enough to let go completely, and the catch happens as planned, both players experience a moment of exhilaration that’s difficult to duplicate any other way.”
This exhilaration leads to a state of “flow” that enhances creativity.
To achieve flow, the brain needs to be doing something challenging, but not impossible, and given rules or parameters. People usually associate flow with running or playing chess. We may be able to add kinky sex to the list.
Increasingly, kinky sex is veering into the mainstream, partly due to the massive popularity of the erotic novel Fifty Shades of Grey and a change in the perception of BDSM being placed in the realm of healthy sexual behaviour rather than “perverted”.
A study carried out in 2013 found that overall, people who practice BDSM are likely to be more psychologically well-adjusted than people who stay within their boundaries.
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